Coming from a large family

When you come from a big family, it becomes imperative that you stay strong. Otherwise, you will be eaten alive by your stronger siblings. I know that for a fact because my dad came from a big family. A couple of friends of mine also came from big families. I, myself, comes from a big family.

No, the eating does not mean you will be maltreated. It’s just a figure of speech. Let me give you an example. There is a tumbler of fried chicken from KFC. You want the thigh part, the largest one. Of course, all your other siblings want the same. Now, if you really want to get the largest thigh part, then you need to be able to grab it first.

Course, this does not happen everyday. Most of the time, it is fun being a part of a large brood. But there are days…

Yes, there are days when chaos reigns in the house. Yes, there are days you are wishing for the miracle of peace and quiet. And there are also days, like today, wherein you get so emotional you just want to sulk in a corner and get over your emo moment without a sibling interrupting you.

Ahh… the joys and pains of coming from a big family.

A prayer

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Happy Monday everyone! Have a blessed week ahead!

A small apartment doesn’t have to mean small ambitions when it comes to interiors

“Small is beautiful”, as the old adage goes. You don’t have to live in a huge mansion, a grand manor, a sweeping chateau or a spacious villa to have a sensational living space. Do some research and use your imagination – and the space you have – to transform a small apartment into a fantastic home.

If you want to totally transform the structure of your apartment, you are going to need to seek professional advice. Moving walls or adding strategically placed walls or screens can make a dramatic difference. You can change the layout and function of the living accommodation, add or take away rooms or storage space, increase or reduce privacy, or simply make a space appear larger. You might also want to consider a loft or garage conversion, enlarging your windows, or swapping solid doors for glass to radically transform what you have.

If you are feeling especially ambitious and not just a little bit daring, get structural advice about building a bed or sleeping area on a separate level in your apartment, or think outside the box and suspend the bed from the ceiling. Consider a Living Cube, a bit like a cabin bed for adults whereby the bed is on top of storage units. Another alternative for a small space is sofa beds, or a foldaway bed that disappears into a cupboard during the day at the simple twist of a handle. Choose furniture that can multifunction in your home; for example, a stool that doubles up as a coffee table, a storage chest that can be used as an extra seat. Buy furniture that can be rearranged to transform the use of a room, with casters if possible to make life easier. Choose smaller-sized furniture; for example, a two-seater sofa instead of three, or buy bespoke furniture to utilize every bit of space effectively.

Apart from major building or conversion work, decorate to take full advantage of a small apartment. Decorate in light colors and maximize all the available natural light. Hang floor-to-ceiling curtains and see-through furnishings in voile or sheer fabrics. Mirrors create a feeling of space and make an area look clean and sharp. Do not clutter, and avoid ornaments, though a strategically placed well-thought-out lamp or vase can look fantastic and create ambience.

Utilize any outside space you have. If your apartment has a patio or outside area, you could create a terrace or deck area with a bistro table and chair to add sophistication. Screen doors and clever use of flooring can create the illusion that the room almost extends out into the outdoor space. Make use of any space under the stairs for a computer room, work area or even a built-in bed.

Finally, accessorize with care. Choose bookcases and cabinets that reach to the ceiling so that no space is wasted, or take advantage of the space between the top of the furniture and the ceiling with hanging storage or high-mounted shelves. Work out what you need and want, work with your vision and be innovative; with the right help and advice you will be rewarded with an apartment perfectly suited to you and decorated in your own eclectic taste.

Sundays

We spend our Sundays at home. We often spend it catching up on the events of the past week and doing DVD marathon. We just spend it together as much as possible. Sunday is a family day to us.

I know some people who go out with friends and spend their weekends elsewhere, away from their families. For people who have lost loved ones, every minute that they can spend with their love ones is special. Ask them. They know what I am talking about.

How do you choose godparents?

In our family, we usually get relatives who are close to us as godparents to the little ones. It makes sense considering the godparents act as second parents to the kids. Imagine getting a co-worker as a godparent. And then two years after, you resign from work and hardly ever see your co-worker again. What then?

I only have three godparents (as opposed to the norm in our country where godparents usually go from five to as many as twenty). My only godmother is my favorite aunt, my sister’s dad. My two godfathers are my dad’s bestfriend and his younger brother. They saw me grow up. My aunt is actually a second mom not only to me but to my siblings and cousins, too. My dad’s bestfriend is a permanent fixture in almost all special occasions in the family.

My parents got a few of my dad’s co-workers as godparents to my sisters. They have never seen them since we were young, when my dad resigned from work.

Sure, there are some who keep in touch and manage to remain friends even after work. But I still feel it’s best to get relatives and really close friends as godparents to your little ones. That way, should something happen to you, there will be people who really cares who can act as surrogate parents to your kids.

Loud music in the room.

I found a perfect gift for my favorite cousin and I found it here. I know that speakers will be perfect for him because he loves to play loud music in his room.

This cousin of mine has been with us through thick and thin. He is like one of my brothers already as we grew up together: me, my younger sisters, my brother who died when he was fifteen, and him. The last two were best of friends when they were kids. So, you can imagine how special he is to all of us in the family.

I can’t wait to see his reaction once he opens the box where I will put a lot of newspapers to camouflage my gift.

;)

Blind

Have you heard of this song Blind by Lifehouse? If you haven’t yet, here’s the video of the song and if you have a few minutes to spare, watch and listen…

Let me tell you what the song says.

Blind is about a girl who is looking for her father’s love and approval. Her father is busy wooing different girls, busy with his own life that he is blind to the daughter he has. The girl is trying to get her father’s attention to no avail.

Parents out there: please don’t be blind to your children. Even though they act as if they don’t need you, you know they do. Give them your attention and love them for who they are.

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